There is definitely a 'red carpet moment' on a wedding day, the real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or the mandap. Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness, of hatred, of jealousy, and, most easily of all, the gate of fear. It’s a choice you make - not just on your wedding day, but over and over again - and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife. Many people spend more time in planning the wedding than they do in planning the marriage. And yes, you have to make your wedding day all about you.